Venus And Mars Relationship Astrology

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One important factor to consider when contemplating the astrology of a love match is the positions of Venus and Mars in your natal chart. Looking at the elements associated with the astrological signs provides a wonderful intuitive reference for understanding how relationships are affected by astrological signs. The Mars person can sometimes scare or repulse the Venus person, and sometimes indicate a sexist 50-60′s dynamic in sexual situations. However, the energy of the Mars person is strong, and it pulls the Venus person in, making them enjoy things they normally wouldn’t.

Those with Venus conjunct, square or opposite Mars are people with strong emotions and desires, especially when it comes to romance and sex. It is said that this contact more than any other has its fair share of fights, squabbles, and dish-throwing in love. However, it can sometimes be more like a sexual dance that starts out with war and ends up with lovemaking in the bed. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus has never been a more appropriate phrase when it comes to relationships.

While an aspect between Venus and Mars clearly spells out the difference between the opposite sex, man and woman, it can particularly show anger directed towards them. Who can wear diamond as per astrology. It could involve fights over money, possessions, and each other. They are affectionate in their relationships, warm and loving, and the excitability of this combination means that feelings run hot. Often there is this sentiment of feeling within that says, “I can’t get along with him/her, but I love the challenge, they make me feel alive, and I feel so passionate about them.”

A person with this contact between Venus and Mars may quickly jump into bed, declare their affection and propose marriage immediately. The contact has been said to be very charismatic and exuding an almost animalistic magnetism that is pretty damn hard to resist. The demonstrative nature in love and immediacy could come across as being selfish, pushy and aggressive. Mostly their appetites are intense, and it can reveal a strong flirtatiousness and extremely amorous side to the personality; they may find competition in love exciting.

The stereotypical Joey Tribbiani approach in the men with this combination can apply here with all the typical male characteristics, and a love of the chase is usually there. A little bit of a battle is often required to keep things stirred up, and what they don’t lack is passion. They may have to watch in some situations of giving off an air of sexuality so that others don’t misread the signs, but mostly they have this love of adventure with others and seek out pleasure and fun.


The person may be attracted to sporty, masculine, fighting types who possess a streak of violence in them. Relationships are prone to issues involving aggressiveness, selfishness, and love-fights. In severe cases, it can mean serious discord and disputes and sometimes a violent, raw and emotionally charged partnership. Venus-Mars is noted for love affairs, and so they may get themselves caught up in a romantic triangle, often more-so when they are missing excitement in the marriage. Many are prone to falling in and out love quickly, and some just want to jump into a relationship without any hesitation at all.

The themes running through Venus-Mars love-life could involve fighting for love, being fought over, caught in an affair. Many lessons involve learning to compromise, keep things balanced, and how to tolerate some incompatibility. Some women with this combination have to be careful not to let themselves be bullied by men. The split inherent in this duo often involves the need for harmony and the need to get their own needs met. The difficulty with this contact is that when they meet love they see conflict, so there is a lot of unifying to do.

They may like their relationships burning with desire and enjoy some squabbling, but do be careful not to get into too much hot water by getting entangled up in a tricky love situation. With many Venus-Mars aspects, the individual will feel more affinity with one side of the pair. If Venus is their planet, relatedness, loving and getting along will predominate. If Mars is stronger than the person asserts their identity firmly in the relationship, and is probably more of a taker, always getting what they want.

Venus-Mars pairings can turn into a love-hate relationship and be argumentative. However, once they get the giving and taking part down the relationship takes the best of both worlds. They can enjoy all the passion that love has to offer and give and receive equally.

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There are two powerful forces within us and they are symbolised by Venus and Mars. These two planets literally dance together as they orbit the Sun, intersecting one another’s orbital paths. This is because Venus orbits between 38 million km and 108 million km from the Sun and while Mars orbits between 55.7 million km and 228 million km. You can imagine their paths crossing and passing continuously as they dance.

Venus And Mars Relationship Astrology Synastry

When Venus and Mars dance, they touch our natal planets continuously as they pass by in transit. As they pass they generate a constant shifting energy between tension and harmony that is a perfect reflection of a relationship between a man and a women.

Venus and Mars take 225 and 687 days respectively to orbit the Sun. This compares to the orbit time of their neighbours: 88 days for Mercury and 12 years for Jupiter.

Venus and Mars in the birth chart

Venus and Mars are both tightly bound up with our sexuality. Our natal Venus shows what we find attractive in a woman and what we perceive as beautiful. It gives us our sense of harmony and artistic flair. Mars shows us exactly how our sexual energy plays out, for example is it aggressive or passive? It also shows how physically energetic we are.

Masculine and feminine don’t necessarily correlate with male and female. Just because you’re a man doesn’t mean you’re more masculine than your sister. It all depends on each person’s birth chart and the overall balance between the four elements, Earth and Water being feminine, and Air and Fire being masculine. It also depends on the placement of natal Venus and Mars. For example a man with Leo Venus and Pisces Mars is unlikely to be macho, and may indeed prefer his feminine partners more aggressive.

Another way of looking at this is to think of these two energies as yin and yang, the dark and light, the positive and negative magnetic polarities of a magnet. This energy manifests itself on many levels of reality, in our societies, families, in nature and in our own beings.

Venus and Mars in transit

As Venus and Mars pass in relation to us, they energise our own centres of masculine and feminine energy, giving us rhythms of rest and action. Our libido is closely tied up with this dance, as is our levels of motivation, stress, hormones, and even our sleep, although this is also closely bound up with the cycles of the Moon.

You can see the dances of Venus and Mars below. Notice how they move in a steady, beautifully balanced pattern. Imagine these two cycles overplayed, so that the two planets were moving in relation to one another but never actually touching, just as the opposing sides of two powerful magnets cannot touch.

Observe the energy of Venus and Mars in your own life. When do you feel active, outgoing and energetic? When do you feel peaceful, nurturing and inspired? Look to see where Venus and Mars as in relation to your birth chart and how this matches how you feel.

Tracking the transits of Venus and Mars

You can learn to track the transits of the planets in three easy steps:

  1. Look to see what house the planet is passing through in your birth chart. This shows the area of your life where the planet is most active.
  2. Look to see which sign the planet is passing through. This gives an archetypal colour to the way the Planet operates.
  3. Notice if the planet is transiting over any planet in your birth chart. This planet’s energy will be strongly activated and take on the colour and quality of the transiting planet.
  4. Take a closer look to see if the transiting planet aspects any planets or points in your birth chart. The quickest way to assess aspects is to look for an equilateral triangle or a square formation between planets in your chart. This will roughly show squares, trines and oppositions.

Download my free ebook The Language of Astrology to learn how to read your own birth chart and follow the transits. If you don’t have a birth chart yet you can generate one for free at

How the transits of Venus and Mars affect our relationships

Venus And Mars Relationship Vedic Astrology

So back to Venus and Mars: when we look at the transits as they affect our relationships with our partner or mate we can see the energies of repulsion and attraction very clearly. How often do you go to bed feeling really intimate with your lover and then the next morning wish desperately to be alone. Our energies can shift without any apparent reason.

Becoming attuned to this shifting energy in both ourselves and in the other, while also realising that the shifts in perception are temporal and change constantly, we can become more relaxed with our own repeating cycles of change. We can be more understanding of our partners and ourselves. We can also learn to own and love our dark side, the energy, either male or female, that we have disowned, and that we have disowned in our partner.

The cycles of Venus and Mars mirror our own cycle of libido, its ebbs and flows. Venus shows how attractive we feel and indeed are, while Mars shows action towards that which we desire.


Venus and Mars are here to teach us about polarity, and they help us to understand that one requires the other. We cannot have dark without light, nor action without reaction. They are inseparable.

Venus And Mars Relationship Astrology Characteristics

Venus and mars relationship astrology characteristics

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How do you experience Venus and Mars in your own life?